In honor of it being the week of Tanner’s and my anniversary, I thought I would give some advice that I had either gotten or wish I had gotten for our wedding day. Planning a wedding can be stressful, but I truly believe and want your wedding day to be the happiest day of your life. The day you marry your forever love is the start to a whole new wonderful, crazy life! Enjoy it.
Here is my first piece of advice: there is always going to be some sort of drama on your wedding day, but don’t let it get to you. Someone is going to get offended about something. You can’t control it, and this is the one day that you really shouldn’t have to worry about anyone else’s drama, so just let someone else take care of it. It is your day; they can get over it. You shouldn’t be trying to meet everyone’s needs. You should be focused on your spouse and enjoying the day. This is a special day for you and don’t let anyone take that away from you.
Second piece of advice: you may be stressing over how perfect everything needs to be for the venue the night before, but a train could come through and wreck it all and you won’t care the day of your wedding because you are going to be in la la land. Maybe this is different for everyone, but from what I have seen and experienced, you are so happy on that day that you really won’t care. So definitely try to get things as perfect as you can before your wedding day, but if there is a little slip up in the decorations don’t sweat it because on your wedding day that is going to be your last concern.
Another piece of advice for you is do what makes YOU comfortable. I honestly didn’t want to do a first dance. I hated the idea of having all eyes on me while I danced with Tanner and I really wasn’t that into having one, so we just didn’t do it. I don’t regret it to this day. It made it so that I was able to enjoy our reception. If there is something you don’t want to do, then don’t do it. It is your day.
Finally, write down your wedding day experience and how you felt. Type it out on your computer or write it in your journal but do something so that you can always look back on that day and remember the great decision you and your spouse made. Tanner and I still laugh about how I cried driving to get married because I was really scared to be in front of a lot of people. I also love to look back in my journal and read and remember the pure joy and excitement we felt when we said yes to being each other’s forever. Please write it down. Those are memories you don’t want to forget!
Your wedding day is the start to your new life. Enjoy it as much as possible! It may be stressful leading up to it, but it is something you’ll be able to look back on with fondness. It will be uniquely your own experience, so savor it!
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That’s great advice! I was a wedding photographer for a while and the brides who stressed about the details missed so much of the joy on their wedding day. There was some drama at my wedding, but fortunately, I was completely oblivious to it.
Love this advice! You are so right about trying not to worry about wedding day drama. So not worth it!
These are some great tips! I’m a little hesitant about a first dance, too. I don’t really care about people watching me, but I know my partner and I are going to HATE to have to learn an actual dance, and I am NOT about doing things that don’t bring me joy, so we might have to figure out something else for us!
This is perfect since I am getting married next September! Thanks for sharing this.